Source: Black Women of Brazil
Chemistry is the most burdened criterion when it comes to selecting a spouse these days.
Yet, as important as it is, it has proven to be weak in sustaining a lifelong commitment.
Many people believe they’ve found love when they can’t sleep at night but hear what T.D Jakes has to say about that:
It’s okay to have feelings but don’t let them have you.
By today’s domestic violence standards, anger management has become one of the most important criterion to look out for in a man.
Look thorough your social media timelines, you’ll find that the rate of domestic violence is on the rise.
Even though I suspect it has always been this bad, social media is just casting a wider beam of light on it.
Let’s face it, no matter how good he is in the bedroom, when he leaves you bruised and brutalized every other day, it’s no use- he can’t kiss and kill you at the same time.
Choosing a life partner because of his bedroom skills is a classical case of making a permanent decision using a temporary reason.
You will forget about his bedroom superpowers when he roughs up your esteem and bruises your body with blows.
It’s a terrible nightmare indeed- the home that should be a sanctuary from the many curves life throws at you turns out to be the very place you fear and dread.
The victims of domestic violence come in three groups:
- Those who by wise counsel, dodge the bullet.
- Those that get in with the hope of changing him but are lucky to run out, even if with bruises.
- Those who breathe their last before they have the opportunity to tell their side of the story.
If he hits things when he is angry, if he is impatient in traffic, if he drives carelessly across a brood of chicks on the road, you likely have domestic violence dressed up in trousers and a shirt, waiting for the right time to manifest.
Only God changes people and even if you’ve prayed that He changes someone, He reserves the right to answer or not answer.
Let God be God, you be you and don’t assume you can change him.
Do yourself, the children that the union may produce, your family and friends a favour and don’t get in in the first place.
Only God knows if you’ll get out.
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